Category Archive: music

Creating a Relationship with Music

I recently bought a new CD for my Birthday present to me…I listened to a few of the songs and wondered if it was worth spending that $32.  I didn’t FEEL anything.

I realised that this isn’t anything new.  It has always taken time for a new piece of music to “grow on me”. Why is this?

Well, I believe that we create a relationship with music just as we do with people.  When you meet someone for the very first time you look, listen, feel into them, work out whether or not you resonate with each other…then decided whether or not you want to pursue the relationship any further.  From here you may call the person again, see them again, talk, go out..basically get to know each other on a deeper level each time.

It is the same with hearing a piece of music for the first time.  You may listen to it in the car, as you go for a walk, you may dance to it with your lover, you may use it to soothe your baby to sleep and the list could go on and on.  In both situations you will be deepening the relationship and creating new memories connected to the music or person each time.

Then, in twenty years time when you bump into the person or now friend again, your whole being remembers what you had together as if it happened yesturday.  This is the same as if you hear that piece of music again…the memories you created together come flooding back and you experience the same feelings as what you did twenty years earlier.

For example, the other day I was showing my kids who Kylie Minogue is on utube and I heard “I Should Be So Lucky” for the first time in 20 + years!  In those days (I find it hard to admit) I went through a Kylie Minogue phase, so hearing this music again bought tears to my eyes… It bought me straight back into my family home with those young teenager feelings… No wonder elderly people light up when they hear songs they used to dance to with their friends and lovers in the “good old days”.  Music takes us straight back.

So remember this as you sing or listen to the same song over and over and over again as you put your baby to sleep or keep your toddler happy in the car… One day you will hear this music again and all the lovely memories and feelings will come flooding back…and you may also shed a few tears.

A Musical “Routine”

Types of Routines

I have always cringed when people used to ask me after I’d had a baby, “Have you found a routine yet?”  I used to wonder, “Are you talking about a routine that I have imposed on the baby or a natural routine where I am following the baby’s rhythm?”  Hmm… I was never one for rigid bedtime or feeding routines for a number of reasons but mainly because it just didn’t feel right.  I believe and I have experienced for myself three times that baby’s find their own natural rhythm just like any baby animal does.  I learnt to let go and trust that my babies would let me know when they were hungry or tired and as they let me know I learnt to meet their needs quickly and from a loving space.  Every family finds their own way through parenting and uses “routine” in different ways to different degrees.  Whatever works for both parents and baby is the best.  By the way, you know if it is best for baby  if the s/he is content, peaceful, happy most of the time.  If the baby is crying it is an indication that you, the parent needs to try something different or the baby is experiencing physical discomfort.

Musical Magic!

So how does music fit into all of this?  Like I said, I never forced my kids to go to sleep or feed at certain times or play happily on their tummies for 20 mins a day…but I did use music as a tool to help them move into sleep or stay playing for longer periods so I could make dinner or wash the dishes.  Every time they heard the “sleep” music they would associate this with mummy, boobies, warm, cozy, rocking, feeling relaxed…sleep!   Whenever we did a nappy change I sang “Der Glumph went the little green frog one day” and they would smile and most importantly let me change their nappy without screaming their head off!.  When they were playing on the mat I would put on “Mozart for Babies” by Don Campbell and they would play contently for a much longer period than if there was no music.  The best example was when my last daughter screamed in the car I would put on her “sleeping” music and she would stop crying immediately and sometimes fall asleep!  I wasn’t holding her and she couldn’t see me but the familiar music was enough to trigger those feelings of being safe and secure and sleepy…and she would settle down. Read the rest of this entry »

5 Tips for Nurturing Your Child’s Musical Gifts

Your baby was musical before he/she was even born…so were you!  Here are some tips on how to nurture their natural musical gifts.

1. Acknowledge their natural musicality

Notice and imitate  your baby and toddler’s sounds.  If they babble, you babble back.  If they bang a box with their hands  squealing with delight, copy them.  If they bop up and down to music, bop with them!  If they want to spend time blowing raspberries on you belly – let them!  Entering their sound world encourages them to express themselves, which naturally leads to speaking, singing and playing instruments.

2. Sing!

Sing to your baby before they are born.  Sing them to sleep after they are born.  As they become more aware of things around them, like the moon, the dog, the cat, bananas, flowers and so on, sing nursery rhymes or made up songs about them.  Sing for your own enjoyment in the  kitchen, in the car, in the shower.  Let them see YOU singing and loving it! Read the rest of this entry »